Passionate Marriage® Couples Retreats and Weekends
Using wisdom developed through three decades of couples therapy, Passionate Marriage® Couples Retreats and Couples Weekends offer the general public revolutionary ways of approaching sex, intimacy, and conflict in love relationships. Materials in our Passionate Marriage publications and workshops emphasize:
- New insights: Ground-breaking ways of understanding your situation that create new opportunities to enhance your relationship.
- Practical application: Things you can do to make things change fast.
The Passionate Marriage® Couples Retreats and Couples Weekends highlight how common problems with sex and intimacy are really part of an incredible system:
Marriage is a natural "people-growing process" and sexual boredom, lack of passion, and "communication difficulties" are what drive it. Your relationship is shaped by more than unresolved childhood issues, past "wounds," or problems in your family-of-origin. Emotionally committed relationships become contentious because these growth processes surface in sexual interactions and other intimate exchanges.
Marital problems are not situational difficulties to be solved or avoided. Going through these dilemmas makes us capable of deep intimacy, profound desire, and meaningful sex. Unsolvable conflicts and sexual difficulties are midpoints in a healthy relationship, rather than signs of personal inadequacy, incompatibility, or falling out of love.
Passionate Marriage Couples Retreats and Weekends emphasize life-long sexual development rather than merely curing desire problems or sexual dysfunctions. People get better in bed as they get older. Most people never reach their sexual potential, and those who do are generally into their 40s, 50s, and 60s. This surprises the many people who confuse genital prime with sexual prime, but you are more capable of an intensely intimate sexual relationships as you mature (become more differentiated).
Passionate Marriage Couples Retreats and Weekends show how your relationship with yourself controls intimate connection and sexual desire for your partner. Relying on your partner to give you a positive reflected sense of self (as most people do) limits intimacy and desire. However, this revolutionary approach gives you concrete ways to build a solid sense of self while getting closer to your partner and more invested in your relationship.
Most marital enrichment approaches emphasize other-validated intimacy: expecting empathy, reciprocity, and validation from your partner when you disclose. Passionate Marriage Couples Retreats and Weekends emphasize self-validated intimacy; validating and accepting your own disclosures, and soothing your own heart. This shift allows you to resolve emotional gridlock, intimacy problems, sexual boredom and low desire, and develop a more passionate loving relationship.
Passionate Marriage Couples Retreats and Weekends decode the "language" of sex, revealing how sexual interactions say a lot about you, your partner, and your relationship. It emphasizes intimate and emotional connection during sex rather than focusing on "touch techniques." Discover new psychological styles and dimensions of sexual experience. Learn how eyes-open sex can create hot passion and new intimacy, and make you grow. Better sex doesn't automatically create a better relationship, but the personal growth required to enhance sex and intimacy also improves marriage in other ways. You'll learn ways of maintaining yourself in your marriage that will improve all your relationships.
Passionate Marriage Couples Retreats and Weekends explore how love relationships involve two-choice dilemmas: difficult decisions and severe tests of selfhood ("crucibles"). For example:
- The person with the least sexual desire always controls sex.
- You can badger your spouse into having sex, but you can never badger him/her into wanting you.
One partner can always force the other to choose between staying married vs. maintaining integrity or self-worth.
Passionate Marriage Couples Retreats and Couples Weekends honor the strength it takes to love on Life's terms. This no-nonsense adult approach harnesses the natural processes of marriage to help you become truly capable of loving.
The Retreat can be a truly unique experience. Your fellow Retreat participants have a common interest in learning more about intimacy, sexuality, and desire in long-term relationships. There will be slide/lecture presentations, experiential activities to explore and enhance your personal development and your relationship, and time to be alone.
Afternoons will be free for walks in the mountains, and (re)establishing a meaningful intimate connection. Evening activities will include discussions on various topics, including integrating sexuality and spirituality. Please remember this is not psychotherapy or a substitute for it. It is an enrichment experience--please come with appropriate expectations. It differs from psychotherapy in its ability to provide individually-tailored interventions. And, it may not specifically address the idiosyncratic point of contention in your relationship. You, however, will be free (and encouraged) to apply the numerous presentations and group activities to your particular circumstances.
About the presenters
Dr. David Schnarch
David Schnarch is a licensed clinical psychologist and author of numerous books, book chapters and articles on intimacy, sexuality, and personal growth, including the best-selling Passionate Marriage. He is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (Diplomat status), and a Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). He was the keynote speaker for the 2007 Willhelm Reich Anniversary Congress in Berlin.
Dr. Schnarch is recognized around the world as a leading expert on sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. He is regarded as one of the most influential American therapists in the field of marital and sex therapy. He has achieved wide popularity through his publications, lectures, workshops, magazine and newspaper articles, and radio and television appearances.
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Dr. Ruth Morehouse
Ruth Morehouse is a licensed clinical psychologist and a certified sex therapist (with Diplomat status) by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). Dr. Morehouse is a member of the American Psychological Association, and Vice-President for Professional Practice of Division 43 (Marriage and Family Therapy). She is also a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, the American Family Therapy Academy,and the International Family Therapy Academy.
Dr. Ruth is much sought after as a speaker and has presented at numerous international meetings. She has years of experience conducting training workshops around the world, including Singapore, Denmark, Italy, Belgium, Switzerland, Slovenia and the Netherlands.
Dr. Ruth conducts Crucible® Intensive Therapy sessions with couples from around the world. She is a seasoned therapist with expertise in a wide range of areas including male and female sexual difficulties, recovery from affairs, depression and anxiety, step-parenting issues, psychological trauma, sex and aging,and the impact of acute and chronic illness. Ruth co-leads the Passionate Marriage® Couples Retreats and Couples Enrichment Weekends. She created the Crucible Women's Retreats in 1995, and has conducted them ever since.
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