Crucible4Points.com Usage Guidelines

Crucible4Points.com has many wonderful members who strive to be honest, candid, fair, kind, and helpful. And around the world, many people live their lives this way. Unfortunately not everyone you meet off-line or on-line is trustworthy or safe to be with—even on this web site. Destructive people poison the space they occupy, whether at home, at work, or on-line. You owe it to yourself--and everyone else in the community--to take care of yourself while you’re a member of Crucible4Points.com. If this isn’t a safe and healthy experience for you, it ruins things for you and for everyone. Likewise, if you are ruining the same experience for other members, your negative impact ripples.

Part of being a well-differentiated person means taking responsibility for yourself. In part this involves taking care of yourself and not letting other people abuse you. Another part means being heedful of your impact on others, and not being abusive. Crucible4Points.com makes it easy to connect with people in your neighborhood and all around the world. Be respectful of the incredible reach this gives you by being a positive, productive, and responsible member. Don’t damage other members’ attempts to create and maintain a healthy vibrant community.

Here are some further guidelines for using Crucible4Points.com Services.

Protect your identity.
Your profile and forums, clubs, and other postings are public spaces. Don't post anything you wouldn't want the world at large to know about you. Don’t post your phone number, local address, IM name, or your specific whereabouts. Don’t post anything that would make it easy for a stranger to find you, like where you work or reside. Please don’t expose yourself to danger.

People aren't always who they say they are.
If you decide to share personal information in private correspondence with other users, please be judicious. It's fun to connect with new friends from all over the world, but be cautious about meeting people in person whom you do not fully know. If you are single and decide to meet someone, do it in a public place and/or bring a friend.

Be careful about adding strangers to your list of Friends & Confidants.
You can restrict access to some information in your personal profile to just your friends. You also can get to know users, who aren’t not friends-of-friends, before adding them to your inner circle. Someone does not have to be on your friends list in order for you to contact him or her. Be judicious in who you invite to be your Confidant. A Confidant is someone with whom you begin to share information about yourself. Also be judicious about what you disclose and how fast you disclose it. Get to know your Confidant a step at a time before you share more personal information (just as you would in an off-line relationship).

Harassment, hate speech and inappropriate content will not be tolerated and should be reported.
Keep your comments clean and use the flagging system to report abuse. If you feel someone's behavior is inappropriate, do something about it. Don’t let inappropriate behavior continue without comment. Report violations to service@crucibleinstitute.com

Don't post anything that will embarrass you later.
We all have things we wished we hadn’t said, written, or shared at some time. Think twice before you post a self-revealing personal story or photo that you might regret in the future. Think three times before blasting off on other members, no matter how much you might disagree with them. Diatribes aren’t as necessary as they seem at the time. This web site is not the place for flame wars, cyber bullying, or just being mean.

Good feedback is really helpful.
When done respectfully, feedback and discussions can be a great way to learn about yourself, other people, and life. It’s a great way to make good friends, exchange stories and experiences, and deepen your experience.

Dealing with other people’s comments doesn’t mean locking into them.
You may not like everything you read or see on this web site. If someone posts a comment that you disagree with, or gives feedback you feel is insulting, you can consider its merits, confront yourself about why it bothers you, or just ignore it. You always have the choice of deleting personal feedback or testimonials.

Don't mislead people into thinking you're older or younger.
If you are under 18 and pretend to be older, we will delete your profile. If you are over 18 and pretend to be a teenager to contact teenage users, we will also delete your profile.  If you are a single adult and looking to meet potential dating partners, remember the adage, “the fish that you catch results from the bait you use.” Misleading potential friends about your age guarantees you’ll never feel secure in the friendship, on-line or off-line.

Talk to your kids about using Crucible4Points.com
Parents, if you’re children are 18 years old and they use this web site, please go over these guidelines with them. Discuss in advance how all of you will deal with each other’s postings and activities on the site.

Don’t get hooked by a phishing scam. 
Phishing is a method that scam artists use to trick you into revealing personal information, such as your username and password, or where you live. Don’t let someone use something you’ve revealed on this web site to trick you into thinking he or she is an old friend or someone you should trust.

Preditory behavior, stalking behavior, invading privacy, harassment, and threats will not be tolerated.

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