Intimacy & Desire

Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship

Table of Contents

Part One: Why Normal People Have Sexual Desire Problems

Chapter 1: There Is Always a Low Desire Partner and the Low Desire Partner Always Controls Sex

Chapter 2: Since Your “Self” Showed up, Sexual Desire Hasn’t Been the Same.

Chapter 3: The Low Desire Partner Usually Controls The High Desire Partner’s Adequacy


Part Two: How We Co-Evolve Through Sexual Desire Problems

Chapter 4: Sexual Desire Problems Teach You to Hold On To Yourself

Chapter 5: Intimacy Shapes Your Sexual Desire

Chapter 6: You Have To Change Desire From Martyrdom to Freedom

Chapter 7: Desire Fades When You Stop Growing


Part Three: Sexual Desire Problems: How Your Personal Life Fits In

Chapter 8: Wanting, Not Wanting to Want, and Two-Choice Dilemmas

Chapter 9: Normal Marital Sadism, The Devil’s Pact and Other Dark Stuff

Chapter 10: What Does It Take To Really Change Things: Safety, Growth, and Critical Mass


Part Four: Using Your Body, Rewiring Your Brain, and Co-Evolving in Bed

Chapter 11: A Collaborative Alliance Is More Important Than Perfect Technique

Chapter 12: Overcome Ticklishness and Create Peace

Chapter 13: Tender Loving Sex

Chapter 14: Blow Your Mind!


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David Schnarch

Intimacy & Desire is written by award-winning clinical psychologist, and world-renowned relationship expert, Dr. David Schnarch. He has a proven track record for creating innovative therapies and making complex brain science understandable and useful to the general public. His ground-breaking professional contributions have received awards from the American Psychological Association, the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and the American Association for Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. He is Board Certified in Couple and Family Psychology (ABPP), and his textbook Constructing the Sexual Crucible is used in therapist training programs internationally. His prior books Passionate Marriage and Intimacy & Desire are in constant demand and have been translated in languages around the globe.

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