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Crucible® Treating Extramarital Affairs Clinical Workshop


Revised With New Brain Science!

August 27-30, 2020

9am - 5pm Thursday- Saturday

9am-1 pm Sunday

Presented by
Dr. David Schnarch, Ph.D. 
Co-Director. Crucible Institute

Due to Coronavirus, this will now be offered in an online format. The price has been dropped to reflect

this change and we are in the process of learning about availability with CE credit's. We will update

this site when we have further details. Thank you for your patience. 



Roughly 30 to 60% of married people in America engage in extra-marital affairs. Men are more likely to stray than women, but women's rates are gaining parity. Few things have greater long-term negative impact on relationships than affairs. Many couples divorce and those who stay together often struggle with the aftermath for years.

Therapists often find conventional ways of dealing with the hostility, volatility, distrust, and hurt feelings that accompany affairs don't really work, resulting in a long-lasting rupture in couples' intimacy and commitment. What do you do when the “betrayed partner” says:

  • "How could you do this to me?!"
  • "I need to be able to trust you!"
  • "I need to know all the details!"
  • "I’ll never forgive you!"

What do you do when the “adulterer” says:

  • "I never meant to hurt you."
  • "I already said I was sorry, what else can I say?!"

Over the last decades therapists have learned sexual problems are often unresponsive to straight-forward body-oriented treatment. It is important to address the systemic emotional processes that maintain sexual problems long after their original source is eliminated. Likewise, mere insight and talk-therapy is often ineffective in eliminating problems of sexual performance. People have to be physically and emotionally engaged doing new things. Couples’ co-existing relationship problems also must be addressed.

Who is the Crucible Treating Extramarital Affairs Workshop for?

If you're a mental health professional treating couples and individuals coping with the aftermath of sexual or emotional affairs, this workshop is for you. Perfect for psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, licensed professional counselors, clergy, and coaches (and graduate students in these professions). Novel clinical strategies and sophisticated deconstruction of affair dynamics can help you succeed with your most entrenched and embittered couples.

Live demonstration of Crucible Therapy

Watch an exciting unrehearsed therapy session conducted by Dr. David Schnarch. Compare the responses you'd make with those of a master therapist. In the debriefing that follows, you'll have opportunities to ask questions and discuss your observations.

What you will learn:

The new Crucible Treating Extramarital Affairs Workshop is a complete departure from conventional couple therapy. Coping with extramarital affairs presents powerful opportunities for personal and interpersonal differentiation. This cutting-edge workshop, rooted in differentiation and the 4 Points of Balance, emphasizes resilience rather than “woundedness,” and emotional autonomy rather than “betrayal.” You’ll learn to recognize and avoid the most common pitfalls in treating affairs that surface around issues like re-establishing trust, commitment, and making amends. This workshop also addresses the person of the therapist and difficult issues like personal values and life experiences, cultural sensitivity and the therapist’s differentiation.


New Brain Science Content

This year’s program features the addition of brain science content from Brain Talk, Dr. Schnarch’s latest book. You'll learn how to use the modern brain science of "mind-mapping" and interpersonal neurobiology to develop more accurate pictures of each partners' dynamics and how the affair played out in their relationship. You’ll be able to detect inaccuracies in partners’ self-report, construct more accurate conceptualizations, and maintain tighter pacing and leading in therapy sessions. The resulting greater accuracy and intensity helps you succeed with thoroughly gridlocked couples who have unrelenting conflict, or who are on the verge of divorce, or who have previously failed in treatment. 


This workshop is offered at the intermediate level of postgraduate training.

This workshop will be recorded for teaching and training purposes. Workshop participants agree to be anecdotally recorded during their participation in the workshop.

Schedule of topics

Please note all times are approximate. Everyone benefits from the freedom to pay more attention to some aspects more than others. This may alter the time devoted to each topic.

** Day 1 Day 2 Day 3 Day 4
9:00 Understanding Affairs Using Mind Mapping in Therapy Strategic Issues in Affairs Strategy Integration
10:30 Break Break Break Break
10:45 Differentiation Collaborative Alliances Clinical Intervention Strategy Final Discussion
12:30-1:30 Lunch Lunch Lunch  
1:30 Differentiation Dynamics in Affairs Live Clinical Demonstration Interpersonal Neurobiological Issues  
3:15 Break Break Break  
3:30-5:00 Mind Mapping Debriefing & Discussion Therapy Change Processes: 2-Choice Dilemmas & Critical Mass  
Learning Objectives for the Sexual Desire Clinical Workshop



Join us for one workshop or the entire series in beautiful Evergreen, Colorado. Although Evergreen is just 35 miles from downtown Denver, it is a world apart in ambiance and easy access to the wonderful Colorado Rockies. Walk around Evergreen Lake, stroll through our art galleries, listen to music at the famous Little Bear Saloon, or hike our verdant nature trails. The Bears Inn and Highland Haven are ideal places to book lodging within a few minutes from our workshop location. Contact us for additional hotel sites.

About The Presenters

David Schnarch, Ph.D., ABPP is the founder of the Crucible and Passionate Marriage Approaches to human relationships. He is the author of four books including Constructing the Sexual Crucible, Resurrecting Sex, Passionate Marriage and Intimacy and Desire: Awaken the Passion your Relationships. Dr. Schnarch received the American Psychological Association 2013 Outstanding Contribution to Professional Practice and two years earlier was awarded the AAMFT Outstanding Contribution to the Field of Family Therapy. He was also the first recipient of the American Association of Sex Education, Counseling and Therapy (ASSECT) "Professional Standard of Excellence" Award. Come learn for yourself why David Schnarch is considered one of the innovative thinkers in the field of couple and family therapy.


Please Note: this workshop will be video-taped in its entirety. Most of the video-taping emphasis will be on the presenters, however, we would love to have you be a part of this video. This could include such things as group shots of the audience, you as a member of the audience asking questions to presenters or interacting with other participants, or perhaps making comments on material presented. If you attend this workshop, as a member of the audience you will be included in the video-taping of this workshop. As part of the registration process, all attendees will be asked to sign a release (click here to view & print) allowing us to video tape you as a part of the workshop and to use the video tape solely at our discretion for future training/educational/ informational programs. Before completing your registration, please review completely the release and be sure you are comfortable with signing the release. If you do not want to be in this workshop as it is being video-taped, then this workshop is not for you. You can check our website periodically to find other workshops offerings that do not include videotaping.


Early registration, received by August 6, 2020 - $375.00
Standard registration received after August 6, 2020 - $450.00


Cancelation policy: By written request only.

To promote participation, we are offering price reductions on our programs when you register. Current registrants will receive a refund, and if you do not wish to participate in this internet-based format we will happily offer you a full refund until April 15. 

Cancellations received up to 21 days prior to a workshop start date will receive a 75% refund. Cancellations up to 14 days before receive a 50% refund. Cancellations between 13 days until the day before a workshop begins receive 25% refund. Cancelations for medical reasons (with documentation) will receive a 100% refund.
In lieu of refund, you can attend another Crucible Workshop of equal or lesser value within the next year at no additional cost.
For inquiries regarding refunds, please contact MFHC at
We are in the process of finding out if we can offer CE credits with an online platform and will make the information available as soon as we know. 
Continuing Education Credits
  • This program is sponsored by the Marriage and Family Health Center (MFHC, also doing business as the Crucible Institute).
  • Marriage & Family Health Center (MFHC) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 5870. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. MFHC is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. This workshop earns 19.5 NBCC Clock Hours.
  • MFHC is also an approved provider of the Texas State Board of Social Worker Examiners (TEXAS SW), and this workshop earns 19.5 CE Credits
  • CE Credits are $15.00 per certificate requested. If you need CE credits, you must take responsibility for checking to see if we have approval for your agency or licensing board. We have participants coming from all over the United States and outside the United States. Thus, we cannot guarantee CE credits for every State or Agency. Many professional organizations will accept the CE Credits from parallel organizations, but it is your responsibility to confirm status with your professional organization. The variations of the exact amount of CE hours depend on each Agency’s policy regarding breaks.
Register Today! These workshops make good therapists better, by combining the science of interpersonal differentiation with the fine art of couple and family psychotherapy.