Affairs Workshop Schedule and Objectives

Treating Extra-Relational Affairs
New Brunswick, NJ,
April 17-19, 2015

Seattle-Bellevue, WA,
May 1-3, 2015

Treating Extra-Relational Affairs
New Brunswick, NJ,
April 17-19, 2015

Seattle-Bellevue, WA,
May 1-3, 2015

Schedule and Learning Objectives


Days 1, 2, and 3 of 3 day workshop

  • Please note: all times are approximate. Because we are focusing on practical learning, case deconstruction and participant involvement, we will benefit from the freedom to pay more attention to particular aspects of therapy to elucidate certain points for participants. Using this approach may lead to alterations in the time devoted to each topic.
  Day 1 Day 2 Day 3
8:30 am Understanding Affairs Mind Mapping Clinical Intervention Strategy
10:30 am Break Break Break
10:45 am Differentiation Dynamics in Affairs Collaborative Alliances Case Application
12:15 pm Lunch Lunch Lunch
1:30 pm Strategic Issues in Affairs Live Clinical Demonstration 2-Choice Dilemmas u0026amp; Critical Mass
3:30 pm Break Break Break
3:45 – 5:00 pm Case Application Debriefing u0026amp; Discussion Person of the Therapist


Learning Objectives

By the conclusion of this workshop, the participant will be able to:

Day 1

  1. Explain how dependence on getting a reflected sense of self from other people makes affairs more likely.
  2. Identify 3 variables or characteristics to consider that make affairs different from each other.
  3. Discuss how low Four Points of Balance can relate to affair behavior.
  4. Demonstrate how increased differentiation changes the dynamics of monogamy.
  5. Describe how low desire/high desire dynamics can influence affair behavior.
  6. Discuss therapist's ability to maintain a balanced alliance when treating affairs.
  7. Using the case example for the day, explain therapist's "third view in the room" when treating affairs.

Day 2

  1. Define mind-mapping.
  2. Discuss the role of mind-mapping in affairs.
  3. State 3 types of relationship alliances and explain how they apply to affairs.
  4. Discuss the idea of how "in a collaborative alliance, the first person you confront is yourself."
  5. Give an example of how an "incongruous power hierarchy " often surfaces around affairs.
  6. Using the live demonstration for the day, discuss the "therapist's positioning" in the therapy.
  7. Using the live demonstration for the day, describe an example of "collaborative confrontation" on the part of the therapist.

Day 3

  1. Explain the strategy behind the 6-part Crucible Therapy Intervention for reducing the resolute spouse's humiliation.
  2. Explain why asking partners to commit to therapy at the onset of treatment is unwise.
  3. Describe dealing with the issues of trust in affairs from the Crucible Therapy Approach.
  4. Discuss borrowed functioning and refer to examples in the case application discussed on Day 3.
  5. Explain the role of reaching critical mass in creating fundamental change in people and relationships.
  6. Give an example of a two-choice dilemma that often arises with regard to affairs.
  7. Illustrate how the therapist's level of differentiation influences treatment of affairs.
  8. Discuss the importance of the therapist’s awareness of how cultural differences may impact client’s attitude and reaction to affairs.

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Suggested bibliography

Schnarch, D. M. (2009). Intimacy u0026amp; Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship. New York: Beaufort Books. (Intimität und Begehren: Erwecken Sie die Leidenschaft in ihrer Beziehung! Stuttgart: Klett-Cotta Verlag, 2011.).

Schnarch, D. M. (1997, 2009). Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, u0026amp; Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships. New York: W. W. Norton. (Die Psychologie sexueller Leidenschaft. Stuttgart: Klett-Cotta Verlag, 2005. (Piper Verlag, 2009.)).

Schnarch, D. M. (2010) A Crucible Approach to Sexual Desire Disorders. Chapter in Treating Sexual Desire Disorders: A Clinical Casebook, S. R. Leiblum (ed.) New York: Guilford Publications.

Schnarch, D. M. (2002). Resurrecting Sex:Resolving Sexual Problems u0026amp; Rejuvenating Your Relationship. New York: Harper-Collins.

Schnarch, D. M. (2000) Sexual Desire: A Systemic Perspective. In Leiblum u0026amp; Rosen (eds.) Principles and Practices of Sex Therapy (3rd Edition.) Guilford Press.

Schnarch, D. M. (1991). Constructing the Sexual Crucible: An Integration of Sexual and Marital Therapy. New York: W. W. Norton.



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