The Crucible 4 Points of Balance™

What are the Crucible 4 Points of Balance? Holding on to yourself in relationships One of the most important things in life is becoming a solid individual. And another important thing is to have meaningful relationships. Two of the most powerful human drives are our urge to control our own lives (autonomy), and our urge for relationship with others (attachment). One of the biggest tasks of adulthood is being able to balance these two urges, and one of the most common problems is having too much of one, and not enough of the other. People often feel claustrophobic or controlled in committed relationships, or feel like they can’t be their true self in their relationships, or feel like their sense …

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Interpersonal Neurobiology of Systemic Racism: A Conversation

Systemic racism robs people of their physical lives, subjects them to police brutality, deprives them of equal opportunity and wears on their soul. People of color are also subjected to a constant daily barrage of traumatic mind-mapping experiences that are virtually invisible and unappreciated by white people living in white-dominant societies. The brain impacts of systemic racism further reinforce cultural and racial stereotypes promoted by systemic racism itself. This in-depth conversation between two colleagues, Dr. Dave Jenkins and Dr. David Schnarch, looks at common experiences in black lives through the lens of cutting-edge brain science known as interpersonal neurobiology. Regardless of your skin color or ethnic  background, this heartfelt frank exchange between two knowledgeable mental health experts will expand your …

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Traumatic Mind Mapping During COVID-19: Interpersonal Neurobiology

FREE to the public and mental health professionals! Uncensored complete version! IF YOU WANT TO UNDERSTAND WHAT’S HAPPENING TO YOU, WATCH THIS VIDEO! Americans will find coverage of “The Person-in-Charge” particularly helpful!   (WEAR YOUR MASK IN PUBLIC, LIKE ALL SUPERHEROS DO!) On May 15, 2020, Dr. David Schnarch conducted a one-hour invited webinar on “Traumatic Mind Mapping During COVID-19: Interpersonal Neurobiology in Daily Life.” This was part of the AAMFT “At Home” Lecture Series attended by 700+ marriage and family therapists and recorded for  rebroadcast. American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) is the credentialing organization for marriage and family therapists and MFT training programs. On May 20th AAMFT posted  an edited-for-content version of Dr. David’s presentation on YouTube without …

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Emotional Cheating or Harmless Fantasy?

A Slate reader says he can only climax by picturing someone other than his wife. Lizzie Crocker investigates these so-called partner-replacement fantasies to find out how common they really are. By Women In The World, July 16, 2013 Ben Smith* has been with the same woman for 13 years. Every third or fourth time he has sex with her, another woman is present in the bedroom. For all he knows, his partner has no idea. They’ve never discussed fantasizing about other people during the act, and Smith rarely did in the early years of their relationship. But ever since they hit the five-year mark, imagining he’s having sex with other women mid-climax has become a “semi-regular occurrence,” whether it’s a …

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Happy Father’s Day to Respectable Fathers

This article first appeared on PsychologyToday.com Dear Dad, Not long ago I finished a long and difficult therapy session with a husband and wife who run a highly successful business. Aside from their marriage falling apart, the man was a fairly poor father, and both their fathers were even worse. In this session the man finally acknowledged he hungers and grieves for public acclaim and recognition. “I want to be a great man,” he said, admitting how he wanted to be seen by others. “No,” I replied, “You want to be a famous man.” “That’s right. To me, they’re one and the same,” he acknowledged. “I know that,” I said, “but being famous and being a great man can be …

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